Nesting

I have been in serious nesting mode this week.  It’s been hard for me to focus on anything else.  I’ve got all the baby’s clothes washed, folded, and in the new dresser.  The crib is set up, and the car seat is installed in the car.  I’ve got the bags for the hospital packed as much as they can be.  I’ve sewn some burp cloths, and have a diaper basket ready. The only loose ends are my desire for muslin swaddle blankets and my dirty house.  Unfortunately that new years resolution hasn’t held on well during the last part of my pregnancy(consistently keeping my house clean).  I am not a fantastic housekeeper.  I will be some day, but right now, it’s not a fight I have time for.  Being a mom and starting up a business is difficult to manage.

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Well, moms have a triangle as well. Network marketing is uniquely compatible with being a stay at home mom, which is the reason many moms choose to go this route.  As I’ve had the opportunity to talk to many moms within network marketing, they all have some trouble balancing these three things.  I am not an exception.

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Obviously, as a mom, your top priority is always your kids, but you also want your business to succeed, and you don’t want to live in a dump either.  I guess you know which two I have chosen lately.  When I come up with a perfect solution, I’ll let you know. Haha.  Anyway, I’ll be 38 weeks on Sunday.  I’ve never actually gone past 38 weeks, so hopefully he comes soon!

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Night Owl Problems…

I’d like to recognize a problem.  Usually I write on the blog when I have time during the day, which is usually nap time.  Sounds like a good idea, right?  Working during the kids’ quiet time should be common sense.  Here’s the problem:

Twelve-thirty (after lunch) rolls around, and I want a nap.  Especially being 34 weeks pregnant, I need my nap.  My brain feels dull, and tired.  I never feel inspired, or excited to write, and that’s a problem.

My brain is the most awake from 10PM to 12AM.  I have been a night owl my whole life.  Night comes, and I feel alive.  All of my sisters, roommates, and husband can attest to the fact that I get (really) talkative at night.  My mind comes alive with ideas in philosophy, religion, questions, and memory lanes.  Everyone who has ever shared a room with me has learned to fall asleep while I am talking. (rude. haha) Evan can usually keep up with things like, “Is the door locked,”  but the nature of God, parenting philosophies, or business ideas tend to go over his head while he’s mostly asleep.  Weird huh?  You’d think he’d be able to keep up. 😉

So here and now, I have decided to write at night.  Why the heck not?  I’ve been fighting natural tendencies, and I’m hoping that by embracing it, my writing can be better… and maybe I won’t keep my husband up all night with crazy ideas.  I can tell them to you lovely readers instead. 🙂

I was also thinking about changing the direction of my blog a bit.  I want to involve my daily life and family more.  Since looking at the stats on this blog, I’ve noticed that the topics that I am passionate about get more views.  What a surprise, to learn that the blog gets more enjoyable to read when I am more passionate about what I write!  Yeah… I guess that shouldn’t have been a surprise. Haha.  Anyway, I hope you current readers aren’t super confused at this shift in the blog.  We’ll see how it goes.  It’s an experiment!  You will have to tell me how it is going as I go along. I would love the feedback.

Tomorrow I might write about my research on hashtags for business purposes, or playing outside (which neighborhood slide is best!! Actually it’s not a contest.  The one by the elementary school is a suicide slide), or maybe my progress in the mounds of laundry I’ve been washing and not folding…  Maybe I’ll write about them all.  Who knows. 🙂  I hope you can join me in this great experiment!

I think I might need a different blog name…

 

 

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Priorities

A big part of time management is managing your priorities.  You’ve probably heard of the “jar analogy”.  If you put all of your little rocks in first, there will be no room for your big rocks.  If you put the big rocks in first, the little rocks fill in around the big rocks.  In this analogy, your rocks are the things on your do-to list.  You need to prioritize the most important things in your life, and the less important things will fall into place.

Steven Covey, the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, came up with this table to help people manage priorities.

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Basically, there are four quadrants.  The idea is to try to stay in the top two quadrants.  If it’s not important, why waste your time doing it?  The best place to be is in the top right quadrant.  If you spend all of our time there, there will be less that needs to be done in the top left quadrant, and you will have a less stressful life.  Procrastinators spend all of their time on the left side, but it’s also a pretty stressful place to be.  If you accomplish tasks before they become urgent, you will be much more successful.  Time is a gift, and procrastination spits in the face of that gift.

All of this information goes in hand with my previous post Are You a Multitasker?  When you choose a task, and finish it, you no longer risk going into the “urgent” section.  Make sure you finish what you start.

Prioritizing takes a lot of practice, and for me, it requires lists.  I am a list person.  When I need to get things done, I make a list of everything I need to do, then I prioritize it.  When I am finished with my list, I start with the first thing, and do my best to put everything else out of my mind.  When I am finished, I go on to the next thing.  Do one thing at a time, before it becomes urgent.  The list itself weeds out the unimportant things, and prioritizing that list keeps those things (for the most part) in the “not urgent” sector.

I would encourage you to try out this strategy, and let me know how it goes for you.  I hope this helps your day go a little smoother.

 

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Are You a Multitasker?

As I sat down to write this post, I opened up WordPress, then I opened up another tab and went to Twitter, intending to come back to WordPress, and then spend some time on Twitter.  If I had continued, I would probably have opened up another tab for Facebook, and might have wandered around Pinterest for a little while as well.  Sound familiar?  We live in a world of multitasking, and it is hurting us.

I am no exception.  I am a mom, which requires some multitasking occasionally… OK, a lot of the time.  I run a home business, I have a lot of responsibilities at church, and I’m participating in a co-op preschool with my four year old.  I have a lot of reasons to multitask my time.

The problem is that it causes more harm than good.  Doing many things at a time isn’t actually helping.  It’s bad time management, it’s terribly unproductive, and can actually harm your brain.

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Research conducted at Stanford University compared gifted multitaskers, to those who were not proficient multitaskers.  You can find more details about it here.  Those who were not multitasking outperformed the multitaskers every time.  Those who regularly multitasked their time could not filter out unnecessary information, and as a result, could not perform the tasks at hand as well.

There’s more:

The University of Sussex released research that shows multitasking may actually be changing the brain:

“A study published today (24 September) reveals that people who frequently use several media devices at the same time have lower grey-matter density in one particular region of the brain compared to those who use just one device occasionally.

The research supports earlier studies showing connections between high media-multitasking activity and poor attention in the face of distractions, along with emotional problems such as depression and anxiety.”

Check out the links.  They’re pretty interesting reads.

The point is, if you want to get something accomplished, choose one task. Focus on finishing that task.  Make sure the task that you choose is actually something that is realistic to accomplish in the time frame that you have.  You will also need to gauge the amount of energy that you have.

Say you have twenty minutes to get something done.  You are emotionally and mentally drained, but you feel OK physically.  Should you write an essay, or go exercise?  Realistically, you won’t be able to get much done on that essay in that short amount of time.  However, you could get a really great workout into your day.

You also need to keep in mind, you will need to plan ahead in order to do this.  If the essay is due in 20 minutes… well, you take procrastination to the extreme, but that is a topic for another day.  Be realistic about your time and energy, then finish the task.  You will feel better when you have one less thing to think about.

So why am I bringing this up now?  I recently read The Compound Effect  by Darren Hardy, and it got me thinking about how much time we actually waste trying to “multitask”.  It is a great book, and I have been so much more productive in my daily goals since reading it.  I don’t get anything from this suggestion.  It’s just a book that has helped me to be a more productive person.  You should give it a read when you get the chance.

So here is my advice: Take one thing at a time.  You will feel better.  There will be a weight lifted off your shoulders every time you cross something off your to-do list.  Give it an experiment for a week, or a month, or the rest of your life.

Let me know how it goes in the comments.  I would love to hear from you.