Choose Happiness!

Today I want to talk about being happy.

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We often blame others for our unhappiness. I know I was doing that very thing this morning.  My four-year-old woke me up this morning earlier than usual. Most people know that I have never been a morning person.

To make it worse, he was whining, and demanding a cheese sandwich and an apple.  I make breakfast for the three of us every morning, but the fact that he was practically yelling at me to get out of bed and make him food was not cool with me.  He continued to whine, and tell me that I wasn’t moving fast enough.  He was pretty much acting horrible.  I told him off for whining, but I was crabby all morning.  I just felt negative, and grumpy.  I didn’t want to do anything for anybody, which is an especially bad attitude to have when you have little children to take care of.

I told myself that I wanted to have a good day.  I wanted to be happy today.  I listened to an affirmations recording that I recently found.  At first I thought it was kind of goofy with its new-agey music, and a man with a Texan accent.  Today was different though.

I listened to the content of the words, rather than the silly music, or the man’s accent.  After I listened to it, my day was completely turned around.

I am the only person that has control over my mood.  I am in control of my life, and I am the person that gets to choose when I am happy. So, I did the best I could.  I put a smile on, got the boys dressed, and we walked outside.  The sun was shining, and it was a beautiful spring day.  I let the positive affirmations and the sunshine affect me.  I chose to forget about my bad morning.  We sang some songs together in the car, and I’ve been in a good mood for the rest of the day.

I can choose which of my surroundings will affect me.  Negative things around me only have the power to affect me if I let them.

So I say to you: Choose to be happy today!  You can’t control your surroundings, but you can determine your reaction to them.

Choose happiness. 🙂

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Learning and Teaching

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This morning, we went for a walk in the neighborhood.  I needed to bring my oldest to preschool, and after we dropped him off, my two year-old and I played on the playground for a little while.  We had a lot of fun, and I got to see his curiosity at work.

Little children are perfect examples of how to learn.  There were letters and numbers on the playground, and he would point to each letter, and make me tell him what they were, and then he would repeat it.  There was a ladder going up to the slide, and he wanted to figure out where the best place was to put his hands and feet in order to climb up without falling.  There were two slides next to each other, and each time we got to the bottom, he wanted to hold hands, and laughed when we shocked each other.

To a casual observer, nothing too important was happening.  We were playing and having fun.  What was actually happening was some serious learning.  Natural curiosity and play is how children learn.  For some reason, as we get older, many forget this natural process of learning.  It can become dull, and too much work.

What are you curious about?

What interests you?

What kind of a topic would enrich your life and make you happier?

Find out what you love.  Whether you are a master, or know nothing about it, there is probably something more to learn.  Find something you are passionate about, and learn all you can.  Be curious.  You don’t have to write a big paper on this, and cite your sources.  You don’t have to fill out worksheets.  You could be on the computer, you could be outside, or you could be with other people.  Find out how you like to learn best.

When it becomes enjoyable to you, learning will no longer be work.

That’s not the end of it though.

Once you have learned something, the best way to solidify it, is to teach someone else.  Find someone who is interested in the same thing as you, and teach them.  You will both benefit.  Maybe you will even have things to teach each other

Never stop learning.  You are never too old.  A life-long learner will be happier, and have every advantage over someone who has been passive in their life.

So, I’d like to hear from you.

What is something that you would really like to learn about?

 

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Are You a Multitasker?

As I sat down to write this post, I opened up WordPress, then I opened up another tab and went to Twitter, intending to come back to WordPress, and then spend some time on Twitter.  If I had continued, I would probably have opened up another tab for Facebook, and might have wandered around Pinterest for a little while as well.  Sound familiar?  We live in a world of multitasking, and it is hurting us.

I am no exception.  I am a mom, which requires some multitasking occasionally… OK, a lot of the time.  I run a home business, I have a lot of responsibilities at church, and I’m participating in a co-op preschool with my four year old.  I have a lot of reasons to multitask my time.

The problem is that it causes more harm than good.  Doing many things at a time isn’t actually helping.  It’s bad time management, it’s terribly unproductive, and can actually harm your brain.

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Research conducted at Stanford University compared gifted multitaskers, to those who were not proficient multitaskers.  You can find more details about it here.  Those who were not multitasking outperformed the multitaskers every time.  Those who regularly multitasked their time could not filter out unnecessary information, and as a result, could not perform the tasks at hand as well.

There’s more:

The University of Sussex released research that shows multitasking may actually be changing the brain:

“A study published today (24 September) reveals that people who frequently use several media devices at the same time have lower grey-matter density in one particular region of the brain compared to those who use just one device occasionally.

The research supports earlier studies showing connections between high media-multitasking activity and poor attention in the face of distractions, along with emotional problems such as depression and anxiety.”

Check out the links.  They’re pretty interesting reads.

The point is, if you want to get something accomplished, choose one task. Focus on finishing that task.  Make sure the task that you choose is actually something that is realistic to accomplish in the time frame that you have.  You will also need to gauge the amount of energy that you have.

Say you have twenty minutes to get something done.  You are emotionally and mentally drained, but you feel OK physically.  Should you write an essay, or go exercise?  Realistically, you won’t be able to get much done on that essay in that short amount of time.  However, you could get a really great workout into your day.

You also need to keep in mind, you will need to plan ahead in order to do this.  If the essay is due in 20 minutes… well, you take procrastination to the extreme, but that is a topic for another day.  Be realistic about your time and energy, then finish the task.  You will feel better when you have one less thing to think about.

So why am I bringing this up now?  I recently read The Compound Effect  by Darren Hardy, and it got me thinking about how much time we actually waste trying to “multitask”.  It is a great book, and I have been so much more productive in my daily goals since reading it.  I don’t get anything from this suggestion.  It’s just a book that has helped me to be a more productive person.  You should give it a read when you get the chance.

So here is my advice: Take one thing at a time.  You will feel better.  There will be a weight lifted off your shoulders every time you cross something off your to-do list.  Give it an experiment for a week, or a month, or the rest of your life.

Let me know how it goes in the comments.  I would love to hear from you.