You Are Enough

I generally have a pretty high self-esteem.  I like who I am, and I’m confident in who I am.  We all have our weak moments though.  Yesterday I struggled with being good enough.  I worked, and got things done, and took care of kids, and talked to business prospects.  I made lunch and went to a midwife appointment.  I picked up a kindergarten registration packet, and dealt with a child’s diarrhea problem.  I made dinner, and produced content for our marketing strategies. (not necessarily in that order)

I worked, and worked, and worked, and through all of that, I consistently felt like I wasn’t doing a good enough job.

Late afternoon, I finally sat down to have a good cry, release some emotions, and a have a good pity party.   Thirty seconds into it, my pity party was cut short with a phone call.  I put a brave voice on, finished the call, and continued through my day.

The thing is, I don’t even know why I was feeling all of this.  Maybe I can chalk it up to pregnancy hormones.  Maybe it’s lack of sleep.  Maybe it was just a busy day.  Regardless of the reason why I was having issues,  I think we all need to be reminded from time to time to be kinder to ourselves.

I am enough.

It’s important to remind ourselves of that everyday.

Remind yourself of what you are good at.  Practice positive self-talk.  Be confident in who you are, and be proud of the things you have accomplished.

I am a fantastic mom.  I am succeeding in attracting people to talk to about business.  I am a supportive wife.  I am great at teaching children, and I’m a good musician.  I’m a good cook, and I am an optimist.  I work hard, and I don’t give up.  I am a good artist, and have a creative mind.  I really love others around me, and I’m good at making friends.

I don’t say these things to brag to the internet.  I say these things to remind myself, and you should too.  Tell yourself what you are good at, and if you are having a hard time thinking of things, hopefully you can talk to someone who loves you.  The people in your in your life are in your life for a reason: they see value in you.  Ask them to tell you about what they see in you, and it will change how you view yourself.

The opposite can be true too.  People who don’t know you, see how you view yourself.  What is in your mind is the kind of person that is attracted to you.  Be confident, happy, and positive, and you will attract confident, happy, and positive people.

The most important thing is to take care of yourself.  Love yourself.  Don’t be your own bully.  Be kind to yourself, and you will be happier.

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Choose Happiness!

Today I want to talk about being happy.

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We often blame others for our unhappiness. I know I was doing that very thing this morning.  My four-year-old woke me up this morning earlier than usual. Most people know that I have never been a morning person.

To make it worse, he was whining, and demanding a cheese sandwich and an apple.  I make breakfast for the three of us every morning, but the fact that he was practically yelling at me to get out of bed and make him food was not cool with me.  He continued to whine, and tell me that I wasn’t moving fast enough.  He was pretty much acting horrible.  I told him off for whining, but I was crabby all morning.  I just felt negative, and grumpy.  I didn’t want to do anything for anybody, which is an especially bad attitude to have when you have little children to take care of.

I told myself that I wanted to have a good day.  I wanted to be happy today.  I listened to an affirmations recording that I recently found.  At first I thought it was kind of goofy with its new-agey music, and a man with a Texan accent.  Today was different though.

I listened to the content of the words, rather than the silly music, or the man’s accent.  After I listened to it, my day was completely turned around.

I am the only person that has control over my mood.  I am in control of my life, and I am the person that gets to choose when I am happy. So, I did the best I could.  I put a smile on, got the boys dressed, and we walked outside.  The sun was shining, and it was a beautiful spring day.  I let the positive affirmations and the sunshine affect me.  I chose to forget about my bad morning.  We sang some songs together in the car, and I’ve been in a good mood for the rest of the day.

I can choose which of my surroundings will affect me.  Negative things around me only have the power to affect me if I let them.

So I say to you: Choose to be happy today!  You can’t control your surroundings, but you can determine your reaction to them.

Choose happiness. 🙂

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Sage Advice From Eeyore

“A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference.”

-Eeyore (A. A. Milne)

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I am a huge fan of A. A. Milne.  His writing style is clever, yet child-like at the same time.  I think his writing can really be appreciated by all ages.  A. A. Milne is most popular for his character, Winnie the Pooh. (Although Christopher Robin would tell you it is actually Winnie ther Pooh. 😉 We’ve all been getting it wrong.)  Despite being an author for children’s books, there is a lot of solid life advice within his books.  Between every heffelump trap, and great “expotition” to the North Pole, there is a beautiful nugget of truth to help you and I live better.

Eeyore is a very misunderstood character.  Everyone thinks he is just the sad, depressed character.  We can learn a lot from him though.  He goes out of his way to help his friends.  When Owl loses his house, he searches high and low for a new house.  He really thinks about all living things around him, and treats them how he would want to be treated.  He loves unconditionally, and finds beauty in everything, including weeds.

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The reason he appears so depressed to all of us, is that he expects the same attitude from everyone around him, and is consistently let down.  He would do anything for his friends, yet they can’t even seem to remember when his birthday is.  Owl didn’t even recognize his tail when he found it.  It became an accessory for his new door bell.  Eeyore, like all of us, wants to be noticed.  He wants to be loved.  When Pooh and Christopher Robin think of him, and then help him, he is so happy, he frolics around the forest, waving his tail as he goes.

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So what can we learn from Eeyore?  We can take the good as inspiration, and discard the bad, and learn from his mistakes.

The Good:

Love all others around you.  Think about things from their perspective, and think of things that might make life easier for them.  Remember their birthday, or what they were working on last week, and ask them how it is going.  See the good in everyone (even those that appear to be weeds), and spend time to get to know them.  It is really easy to get caught up in a self-centered life, and forget about those around you.  How does a more postitive attitude benefit you?  It does, trust me.  It’s called friendship.  It’s really hard to approach it this way, and takes a lot more effort, but it is well worth it.  You will have more deep, meaningful relationships, and you will be happier in the long-run.

The Bad:

Eeyore forgets that his friends are imperfect.  He is often let down by high expectations.  You can’t control what other people do, so basing your happiness levels on other people’s actions is setting yourself up for disappointment.  It sounds cynical, but you have to decide to be happy.  You can’t let outside forces decide something that important for you!  Unlike Eeyore, you need to take control and decide that you are going to be happy every single day.  If you need help, think about all of the things you have to be grateful for, and list them regularly.

You probably all know someone who plays the blame game.  It’s always someone else’s fault.  Whatever negative thing in their life is making them unhappy, it’s not their fault.  These kinds of people are usually unhappy more often than not.  Take ownership of your own life.  Take responsibility for your own happiness.  No one else should have control over that.  Keep your friends close, but don’t expect perfection of them.  Remember that you are not perfect either.  Love each other, despite of imperfections.

 

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