A Balance Between Gratitude and Goals

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This morning we had to go into the city so I could meet with my midwife, but after my appointment, we picked up Evan and went out for lunch.  It has been a beautiful spring day, so we bought some sandwiches at the food court across the street, and sat by a fountain to eat our lunch together.  Gardeners and other grounds workers were busy getting things ready for spring.  My kids kept trying to pick the pansies that had just been planted, and splashing in the water of the fountain.  I was just glad they didn’t fall in!  They were exhausted when we got home, and we are having our quiet time now.  🙂 Whew! It was a beautiful morning though.

Yesterday I talked about the things that I want, that I don’t have.  This morning was ideal though.  As I search for more, and make goals for myself, It’s also important to be grateful for the things that I do have.  It’s important to take notice of perfect moments.  I am grateful that my husband works near such a beautiful place, and that he has the flexibility to wander the city with us for lunch.  I’m thankful that we could afford to buy sandwiches and cookies.  I am most thankful for my family.  I feel blessed to have a steady, loving family.  It is the thing I prize most in my life, and I realize that not everyone has that opportunity.

It’s important to find a balance between reaching for dreams, and remembering what we already have.  Don’t get so caught up in your dreams that you forget.  No matter our circumstance, there is always something to be grateful for.  Find that thing, and hold on to it. 🙂

I’d like to hear from you. What are you most grateful for?

 

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My Average Day Dream

Evan and I had an interesting conversation today.  We often dream together, and talk about what we would want to do in our future.

When we dream, he talks about going into the film business and writing and directing for TV.  I talk about traveling to exotic places.  He talks about buying a beautiful house, and I dream about a big yard with trees and water.  We talk about vacations, and what we would do on those vacations.  Those are all big things though.  Go big or go home, right?  I think it’s good to have big dreams, as long as you put the work in, behind those dreams. 🙂

Today was a little different.  We talked about an average day.  Right now, our average day is pretty traditional.  He goes to work at his desk job 40 hours a week, and I stay home with the kids.  Both of us work hard to build our business during this time.  Interspersed, we have church responsibilities, preschool related things, and social activities.  Pretty average, right?  We are very blessed, but I can’t help but want more.  Cue Little Mermaid…

What can I say?  I’m a 90’s kid.

“I want more… ” This is the part where you sing it to yourself. 😉

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Here’s how my absolutely perfect, but completely average day would go:

We would all wake up together, eat breakfast, and send the kids off to school.  Evan and I might go exercise together, and get some reading in.  We would have our business that we are growing online as our main source of income, and would get to work that morning on creating content, meeting new people, and helping others in their own businesses.  We might squeeze in some housework, then have lunch together.  We wouldn’t do anything fancy; remember this is a regular day.  We would probably just make sandwiches in the kitchen together, and talk.  In the afternoon, if we had more to do, we would continue with business related things.  We might meet with other business owners, or host a webinar.  If we were taking an easy day, we might go to the park, or I could bake some bread for an after school snack(something my mom did for me growing up).  The options would really be endless.  The kids would come home from school, or they might have after school activities.  We would sit down to dinner together, and have a great conversation, and in the evening, depending on the day, we could either have a family night, or have some alone time (introvert here!).

The general idea is that we would have complete freedom to do what we wanted with the day.  We could play, lounge, and especially, work together.  I love my family, so my ideal day would be where neither of us had to go into the office that day.  Our office would be our home.  Evan and I are constantly messaging each other throughout the day about business related things now, but in this scenario, we wouldn’t have to message each other, because we would be in the same room.  We are a great team now, but we could be even better.

It’s fun to dream about crazy vacations or big purchases, but that’s not really what drives me.  My goal is this average day, where we work together.  This is my dream.  I don’t want the fancy car, or the elaborate mansion.  I want to keep my family as close as possible.  I want the freedom to make my own schedule, and work alongside the person I love the most.  I want people on our team that work hard, work smart, and dream big.

Maybe all of this seems naive to you, and that’s OK.  It won’t stop me from thinking about it.  Dreams don’t always stay exactly the same either.  They evolve as we evolve.  It may change, but the thing that won’t change is the size of that dream.

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We ended up visiting the “suicide slide”  today. 😉  Admittedly, there are definitely bigger thrills in the world, but for a two-year-old, this slide takes the cake for thrills.

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As far as business is concerned, Evan and I have been focusing a lot on the importance of personal connections.  I usually start off my day by posting on Instagram.  I then comment and engage on other people’s posts.  I want to genuinely connect with people, and Instagram is great way of meeting people with common goals.  While I am connecting with people online for business purposes, my kids are usually parked in front of Disney Jr, eating cereal.  It doesn’t last all morning, but using the TV as a babysitter generally triggers some mommy guilt if I’m not careful with my time.  I try to make them my priority (it’s easy to meander on social media).  While it is important to connect with others for business purposes, it is more important to connect with these two awesome boys.

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So we went to the park.

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He found a stick.

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Lunchtime came, and it was time to leave.  Some took it better than others.

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I hope you can make the time in your lives to connect with those people that are the most important, and connect with new people as well.  Human connection is really the most important part of life.  Let’s make it worth it. 🙂

 

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Night Owl Problems…

I’d like to recognize a problem.  Usually I write on the blog when I have time during the day, which is usually nap time.  Sounds like a good idea, right?  Working during the kids’ quiet time should be common sense.  Here’s the problem:

Twelve-thirty (after lunch) rolls around, and I want a nap.  Especially being 34 weeks pregnant, I need my nap.  My brain feels dull, and tired.  I never feel inspired, or excited to write, and that’s a problem.

My brain is the most awake from 10PM to 12AM.  I have been a night owl my whole life.  Night comes, and I feel alive.  All of my sisters, roommates, and husband can attest to the fact that I get (really) talkative at night.  My mind comes alive with ideas in philosophy, religion, questions, and memory lanes.  Everyone who has ever shared a room with me has learned to fall asleep while I am talking. (rude. haha) Evan can usually keep up with things like, “Is the door locked,”  but the nature of God, parenting philosophies, or business ideas tend to go over his head while he’s mostly asleep.  Weird huh?  You’d think he’d be able to keep up. 😉

So here and now, I have decided to write at night.  Why the heck not?  I’ve been fighting natural tendencies, and I’m hoping that by embracing it, my writing can be better… and maybe I won’t keep my husband up all night with crazy ideas.  I can tell them to you lovely readers instead. 🙂

I was also thinking about changing the direction of my blog a bit.  I want to involve my daily life and family more.  Since looking at the stats on this blog, I’ve noticed that the topics that I am passionate about get more views.  What a surprise, to learn that the blog gets more enjoyable to read when I am more passionate about what I write!  Yeah… I guess that shouldn’t have been a surprise. Haha.  Anyway, I hope you current readers aren’t super confused at this shift in the blog.  We’ll see how it goes.  It’s an experiment!  You will have to tell me how it is going as I go along. I would love the feedback.

Tomorrow I might write about my research on hashtags for business purposes, or playing outside (which neighborhood slide is best!! Actually it’s not a contest.  The one by the elementary school is a suicide slide), or maybe my progress in the mounds of laundry I’ve been washing and not folding…  Maybe I’ll write about them all.  Who knows. 🙂  I hope you can join me in this great experiment!

I think I might need a different blog name…

 

 

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Learning and Teaching

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This morning, we went for a walk in the neighborhood.  I needed to bring my oldest to preschool, and after we dropped him off, my two year-old and I played on the playground for a little while.  We had a lot of fun, and I got to see his curiosity at work.

Little children are perfect examples of how to learn.  There were letters and numbers on the playground, and he would point to each letter, and make me tell him what they were, and then he would repeat it.  There was a ladder going up to the slide, and he wanted to figure out where the best place was to put his hands and feet in order to climb up without falling.  There were two slides next to each other, and each time we got to the bottom, he wanted to hold hands, and laughed when we shocked each other.

To a casual observer, nothing too important was happening.  We were playing and having fun.  What was actually happening was some serious learning.  Natural curiosity and play is how children learn.  For some reason, as we get older, many forget this natural process of learning.  It can become dull, and too much work.

What are you curious about?

What interests you?

What kind of a topic would enrich your life and make you happier?

Find out what you love.  Whether you are a master, or know nothing about it, there is probably something more to learn.  Find something you are passionate about, and learn all you can.  Be curious.  You don’t have to write a big paper on this, and cite your sources.  You don’t have to fill out worksheets.  You could be on the computer, you could be outside, or you could be with other people.  Find out how you like to learn best.

When it becomes enjoyable to you, learning will no longer be work.

That’s not the end of it though.

Once you have learned something, the best way to solidify it, is to teach someone else.  Find someone who is interested in the same thing as you, and teach them.  You will both benefit.  Maybe you will even have things to teach each other

Never stop learning.  You are never too old.  A life-long learner will be happier, and have every advantage over someone who has been passive in their life.

So, I’d like to hear from you.

What is something that you would really like to learn about?

 

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How to Help Others

A couple weeks ago, my husband wrote a post called The Virtue of Selfishness.  Most of the blog is on self improvement.  It’s important to take care of yourself, but one of the biggest reasons to take care of yourself, is so you have the resources to take care of others.  If your neighbor had been in the hospital, and needed a healthy meal brought to them, would you do it?  What if you didn’t know how to cook for yourself?  If your friend lost their job, and asked for your help, realistically, how could you help them if you were struggling for work as well?  If the electricity went out, and you didn’t have any flashlights, you couldn’t let a neighbor borrow something you didn’t have.

So once you are self sufficient, how do you know how to best help those around you?

The best way to help others is to assist them in helping themselves.  You know, the whole “teach a man to fish” analogy.

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Former Ricks College (now BYU-Idaho) president Henry B. Eyring said,

“All people are happier and feel more self-respect when they can provide for themselves and their family and then reach out to take care of others. I have been grateful for those who helped me meet my needs. I have been even more grateful over the years for those who helped me become self-reliant. And then I have been most grateful for those who showed me how to use some of my surplus to help others.”

It is a beautiful circle.  You first become self-reliant.  Then you help others meet their needs.  Then you teach others how to help the people that they know.

How do you figure out what other people need?  Sometimes it’s obvious, and sometimes the only way to find out is to be their friend.  Love those around you.  Learn about them.  When you have a conversation, ask what is happening in their life.  Learn about what they value in life.  Learn who they are.  In short, be a good friend.  You will see their struggles and want to find solutions, because that person will be important to you.

 

 

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How to Get Over “I Don’t Feel Like It”

I’ve had this problem often in my life.  This post, in particular feels a bit ironic to write, because today I didn’t feel like it.  I did not really feel like doing much of anything today.  I made several other excuses.  I’m hugely pregnant.  I hurt my ankle (again) and can’t really walk.  My children were kind of crazy today.  I’m tired.  Here’s the thing:  I have already committed to myself that I will write on the blog Monday through Friday.  When you’ve committed to something, excuses don’t matter.  You either do it, or you don’t.  Also writing does not involve ankles!  I can still be productive, dang it! 

So that was my pep talk to myself.  Maybe it helped you, maybe you’re laughing at my ridiculousness.  Either way, I already decided what I wanted to talk about today, and it is how to get over that feeling of not wanting to do something.  This is why we are all such good procrastinators, but I heard an interesting quote recently:

“Amateurs wait until they feel inspired to do creative work. Professionals do it on a strict schedule.”

Procrastination is the difference between an amateur and a professional.  Professionals generally are those who have succeeded in their fields, and that is what we are all striving for: success.

If you wait to feel inspired, or you wait to have enough energy or courage, your productivity won’t be consistent, and you won’t get where you need to go.  This is all easier said than done though.  Here are two suggestions to help get you through those times where you just don’t feel like it.

1. Schedule a time to work.  Regardless of whether you are feeling good or bad, just start.  Don’t do anything else during that time.  That is exclusive work time.  The more you do, the more momentum you will have on your side.  Momentum makes everything seem easier.

2. Give yourself permission for imperfection.  Writer’s first drafts are famously flawed.  Olympic athletes still show up to practice when they are tired.  Will those writers write a masterpiece that day?  Maybe not.  Will that swimmer get his best time that day?  Probably not, but they will accomplish things miles ahead of those who didn’t do anything on those days.  You don’t have to be awesome every day.  It’s OK to have less than perfect work sometimes.

As you are consistent, you will see results over time.  Inconsistency is your enemy.  So choose a time, and just start.  Whatever your goal is, just do a little bit every day.  You can do it!

 

 

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You Failed! :)

Evan wrote a fantastic post in our Facebook group on failure and overcoming hard things today.  He included an awesome clip from a great movie.

You can check out the post here!

 
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Dreams and Goals

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This is my awesome four-year-old.  He’s still pretty little, so his dreams are changing constantly, but he recently he told me he wanted to be an astronaut, and he also wanted to be a doctor.  As adults, we tend to smile knowingly at little kid’s dreams.  I wanted to be a famous singer as a kid, and that wouldn’t necessarily be something I aspire to today.  Kid’s dreams are often seen as unrealistic, or simplistic.  Not every little boy will grow up to be a fire fighter.  We can learn from children in a way though.  They don’t hold themselves back.  They don’t make their dreams smaller to fit their lifestyle or current budget.

The question is, how do you make that big dream a reality?  Kids don’t think about that part.  Adults do, and that is why we tend to put limits on our dreams, because we don’t know how to achieve them.

Imagine your dream, then change it to a goal.  The only difference between a dream and a goal is a detailed plan.  Make your plan.  Divide it up into years, months, days, and maybe even hours.  What do you need to do on a daily basis to reach that goal?  What do you need to do now?

The most important part of this goal is to not compare yourself with others.  That is a bad path to go down.  It will hurt more than it will help.  Compare yourself to the person you were yesterday.  If you are further on the path to reaching that goal than you were yesterday, you are succeeding.

 

 

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Take Care of Your Body

We were focused on nutrition this morning!  I participate in a preschool co-op with my four-year-old, and it was our turn to host.  We learned about the five food groups, and I was struck by how simple nutrition can be, yet many of us are still confused about how to take care of our bodies.

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When you take care of your body, and eat healthy, you will have more energy, and everything in your day will go better.  I’ve experienced extremes in this, during pregnancy.  I have been anemic during this pregnancy, and even after I got over the whole puking period, my diet has affected my mood and energy levels in an extreme way.  As an example, here is a journal entry from a while ago, where I gave some advice to my future self.  It probably shouldn’t have been such a surprising discovery.

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I was kind of a wreck that day.  There wasn’t really a great reason for me to be upset.  I just couldn’t seem to handle even small hurdles.  After I had eaten, I suddenly felt like all of those things I had been upset about were insignificant.  It’s amazing what a taco can do for your attitude towards life. 🙂

It is my opinion that the more homemade it is, the better it is for your body.  The more ingredients you can recognize on the label, the better it will be for you.  I think the biggest problem many of us face in 2016 is finding food that has not been so processed that it is barely considered food.  Everyone is busy, and looking for easier and faster. Most of the time, we don’t have time to spend three hours on a meal.  We can try to eat more natural foods, and look at labels though.  Take care of your body, and your body will take care of you.

 

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