A couple weeks ago, my husband wrote a post called The Virtue of Selfishness. Most of the blog is on self improvement. It’s important to take care of yourself, but one of the biggest reasons to take care of yourself, is so you have the resources to take care of others. If your neighbor had been in the hospital, and needed a healthy meal brought to them, would you do it? What if you didn’t know how to cook for yourself? If your friend lost their job, and asked for your help, realistically, how could you help them if you were struggling for work as well? If the electricity went out, and you didn’t have any flashlights, you couldn’t let a neighbor borrow something you didn’t have.
So once you are self sufficient, how do you know how to best help those around you?
The best way to help others is to assist them in helping themselves. You know, the whole “teach a man to fish” analogy.
Former Ricks College (now BYU-Idaho) president Henry B. Eyring said,
“All people are happier and feel more self-respect when they can provide for themselves and their family and then reach out to take care of others. I have been grateful for those who helped me meet my needs. I have been even more grateful over the years for those who helped me become self-reliant. And then I have been most grateful for those who showed me how to use some of my surplus to help others.”
It is a beautiful circle. You first become self-reliant. Then you help others meet their needs. Then you teach others how to help the people that they know.
How do you figure out what other people need? Sometimes it’s obvious, and sometimes the only way to find out is to be their friend. Love those around you. Learn about them. When you have a conversation, ask what is happening in their life. Learn about what they value in life. Learn who they are. In short, be a good friend. You will see their struggles and want to find solutions, because that person will be important to you.
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