Learning and Teaching

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This morning, we went for a walk in the neighborhood.  I needed to bring my oldest to preschool, and after we dropped him off, my two year-old and I played on the playground for a little while.  We had a lot of fun, and I got to see his curiosity at work.

Little children are perfect examples of how to learn.  There were letters and numbers on the playground, and he would point to each letter, and make me tell him what they were, and then he would repeat it.  There was a ladder going up to the slide, and he wanted to figure out where the best place was to put his hands and feet in order to climb up without falling.  There were two slides next to each other, and each time we got to the bottom, he wanted to hold hands, and laughed when we shocked each other.

To a casual observer, nothing too important was happening.  We were playing and having fun.  What was actually happening was some serious learning.  Natural curiosity and play is how children learn.  For some reason, as we get older, many forget this natural process of learning.  It can become dull, and too much work.

What are you curious about?

What interests you?

What kind of a topic would enrich your life and make you happier?

Find out what you love.  Whether you are a master, or know nothing about it, there is probably something more to learn.  Find something you are passionate about, and learn all you can.  Be curious.  You don’t have to write a big paper on this, and cite your sources.  You don’t have to fill out worksheets.  You could be on the computer, you could be outside, or you could be with other people.  Find out how you like to learn best.

When it becomes enjoyable to you, learning will no longer be work.

That’s not the end of it though.

Once you have learned something, the best way to solidify it, is to teach someone else.  Find someone who is interested in the same thing as you, and teach them.  You will both benefit.  Maybe you will even have things to teach each other

Never stop learning.  You are never too old.  A life-long learner will be happier, and have every advantage over someone who has been passive in their life.

So, I’d like to hear from you.

What is something that you would really like to learn about?

 

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How to Help Others

A couple weeks ago, my husband wrote a post called The Virtue of Selfishness.  Most of the blog is on self improvement.  It’s important to take care of yourself, but one of the biggest reasons to take care of yourself, is so you have the resources to take care of others.  If your neighbor had been in the hospital, and needed a healthy meal brought to them, would you do it?  What if you didn’t know how to cook for yourself?  If your friend lost their job, and asked for your help, realistically, how could you help them if you were struggling for work as well?  If the electricity went out, and you didn’t have any flashlights, you couldn’t let a neighbor borrow something you didn’t have.

So once you are self sufficient, how do you know how to best help those around you?

The best way to help others is to assist them in helping themselves.  You know, the whole “teach a man to fish” analogy.

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Former Ricks College (now BYU-Idaho) president Henry B. Eyring said,

“All people are happier and feel more self-respect when they can provide for themselves and their family and then reach out to take care of others. I have been grateful for those who helped me meet my needs. I have been even more grateful over the years for those who helped me become self-reliant. And then I have been most grateful for those who showed me how to use some of my surplus to help others.”

It is a beautiful circle.  You first become self-reliant.  Then you help others meet their needs.  Then you teach others how to help the people that they know.

How do you figure out what other people need?  Sometimes it’s obvious, and sometimes the only way to find out is to be their friend.  Love those around you.  Learn about them.  When you have a conversation, ask what is happening in their life.  Learn about what they value in life.  Learn who they are.  In short, be a good friend.  You will see their struggles and want to find solutions, because that person will be important to you.

 

 

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How to Get Over “I Don’t Feel Like It”

I’ve had this problem often in my life.  This post, in particular feels a bit ironic to write, because today I didn’t feel like it.  I did not really feel like doing much of anything today.  I made several other excuses.  I’m hugely pregnant.  I hurt my ankle (again) and can’t really walk.  My children were kind of crazy today.  I’m tired.  Here’s the thing:  I have already committed to myself that I will write on the blog Monday through Friday.  When you’ve committed to something, excuses don’t matter.  You either do it, or you don’t.  Also writing does not involve ankles!  I can still be productive, dang it! 

So that was my pep talk to myself.  Maybe it helped you, maybe you’re laughing at my ridiculousness.  Either way, I already decided what I wanted to talk about today, and it is how to get over that feeling of not wanting to do something.  This is why we are all such good procrastinators, but I heard an interesting quote recently:

“Amateurs wait until they feel inspired to do creative work. Professionals do it on a strict schedule.”

Procrastination is the difference between an amateur and a professional.  Professionals generally are those who have succeeded in their fields, and that is what we are all striving for: success.

If you wait to feel inspired, or you wait to have enough energy or courage, your productivity won’t be consistent, and you won’t get where you need to go.  This is all easier said than done though.  Here are two suggestions to help get you through those times where you just don’t feel like it.

1. Schedule a time to work.  Regardless of whether you are feeling good or bad, just start.  Don’t do anything else during that time.  That is exclusive work time.  The more you do, the more momentum you will have on your side.  Momentum makes everything seem easier.

2. Give yourself permission for imperfection.  Writer’s first drafts are famously flawed.  Olympic athletes still show up to practice when they are tired.  Will those writers write a masterpiece that day?  Maybe not.  Will that swimmer get his best time that day?  Probably not, but they will accomplish things miles ahead of those who didn’t do anything on those days.  You don’t have to be awesome every day.  It’s OK to have less than perfect work sometimes.

As you are consistent, you will see results over time.  Inconsistency is your enemy.  So choose a time, and just start.  Whatever your goal is, just do a little bit every day.  You can do it!

 

 

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You Failed! :)

Evan wrote a fantastic post in our Facebook group on failure and overcoming hard things today.  He included an awesome clip from a great movie.

You can check out the post here!

 
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Dreams and Goals

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This is my awesome four-year-old.  He’s still pretty little, so his dreams are changing constantly, but he recently he told me he wanted to be an astronaut, and he also wanted to be a doctor.  As adults, we tend to smile knowingly at little kid’s dreams.  I wanted to be a famous singer as a kid, and that wouldn’t necessarily be something I aspire to today.  Kid’s dreams are often seen as unrealistic, or simplistic.  Not every little boy will grow up to be a fire fighter.  We can learn from children in a way though.  They don’t hold themselves back.  They don’t make their dreams smaller to fit their lifestyle or current budget.

The question is, how do you make that big dream a reality?  Kids don’t think about that part.  Adults do, and that is why we tend to put limits on our dreams, because we don’t know how to achieve them.

Imagine your dream, then change it to a goal.  The only difference between a dream and a goal is a detailed plan.  Make your plan.  Divide it up into years, months, days, and maybe even hours.  What do you need to do on a daily basis to reach that goal?  What do you need to do now?

The most important part of this goal is to not compare yourself with others.  That is a bad path to go down.  It will hurt more than it will help.  Compare yourself to the person you were yesterday.  If you are further on the path to reaching that goal than you were yesterday, you are succeeding.

 

 

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Take Care of Your Body

We were focused on nutrition this morning!  I participate in a preschool co-op with my four-year-old, and it was our turn to host.  We learned about the five food groups, and I was struck by how simple nutrition can be, yet many of us are still confused about how to take care of our bodies.

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When you take care of your body, and eat healthy, you will have more energy, and everything in your day will go better.  I’ve experienced extremes in this, during pregnancy.  I have been anemic during this pregnancy, and even after I got over the whole puking period, my diet has affected my mood and energy levels in an extreme way.  As an example, here is a journal entry from a while ago, where I gave some advice to my future self.  It probably shouldn’t have been such a surprising discovery.

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I was kind of a wreck that day.  There wasn’t really a great reason for me to be upset.  I just couldn’t seem to handle even small hurdles.  After I had eaten, I suddenly felt like all of those things I had been upset about were insignificant.  It’s amazing what a taco can do for your attitude towards life. 🙂

It is my opinion that the more homemade it is, the better it is for your body.  The more ingredients you can recognize on the label, the better it will be for you.  I think the biggest problem many of us face in 2016 is finding food that has not been so processed that it is barely considered food.  Everyone is busy, and looking for easier and faster. Most of the time, we don’t have time to spend three hours on a meal.  We can try to eat more natural foods, and look at labels though.  Take care of your body, and your body will take care of you.

 

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Strengthen Your Relationships

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Do you want to have better people skills?  When it comes to interpersonal skills, there is one thing that is so simple, yet takes concentration to accomplish.  It is obvious, yet very few people try it.  It makes all the difference in the world, yet very few people are good at it.

Do you know what it is yet?

I can answer in one word.  That word is

Listen.

I thought I was good at this when I was a teenager because I was very shy, and didn’t always fully participate in the conversation.  I’ve learned that being quiet does not necessarily mean you are listening.  Then there is the other direction of constantly talking about yourself.  That’s obviously not right either.  These are both extremes to the desired “listening”, but I think everyone naturally leans one way or the other.  We all have to make an effort in order to really listen.

Listening means you are really paying attention to the subtle cues that others give, asking them questions, focusing on them when they are talking, then responding accordingly.  In order to listen to someone else, you cannot be thinking about yourself.  It is a subtle, and selfless action.  Yes, I would call it an action.  Its highly unlikely for someone to be fully listening, unless it is a purposeful action.

My church has a program set up for the women, where we are each assigned to a few other women in the congregation.  We have a partner, and we go visit each person to which we are assigned.  We become friends, we learn if they are having struggles, and try to help.  We also bring a religious message, and usually have a discussion on that message.  It is a fabulous program, and when done right, results in strong friendships, opportunities to serve others, and to receive help when we need it.  When Henry got his surgery, I had meals brought to us, and offers to watch my older child.  Both services were from women who visit me, and also other friends within the neighborhood.

As I was doing my visiting today, I was trying to make an active attempt to listen.  In doing so, I felt that I had made a much better connection, and strengthened our friendships.  I learned more about them, and how I can help.  Listening made all the difference between a fake assigned relationship, to a meaningful, personal friendship.

Most people can tell when someone is being genuine or sincere.  When you listen, you show that you genuinely care about that person, and what they have to say.  It’s OK to pause and think about what you want to say next, rather than thinking of it while they are talking.  We could all benefit from practicing this important skill.  None of us are perfect at it, but as we continually strive to be better, our relationships with others will improve.

 

 

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Happy Birthday Evan!

Today we celebrated Evan’s 29th birthday.  We decorated the house, wrapped some presents, and made some birthday cards while he was at work.  Both boys were so excited for daddy to come home so we could start the party!

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We also made some ice cream cake that turned out delicious!
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I’m so grateful that I am married to this wonderful man.  He’s a little goofy, and he makes me laugh.

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He can also be serious though, and is the most excellent leader I know, regardless of the situation.  He is a font of knowledge.  If I ever don’t know something, first I ask him, then if he doesn’t know, I ask Google.  He always wants to help others around him, and finds ways to legitimately help. He has big dreams, and works hard to see those dreams come to fruition.  He is persistent in his goals, and often keeps me going in mine.  He is an amazing husband and father, and I am grateful that he is a part of our family.  He is my best friend, and I love him more than anyone in the world.

He recently made a goal to make a daily vlog on Youtube for the whole year.  We’re really excited about what this next year will bring, and we’re excited to have you along for the ride!

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A Financial Training From a Multi-Millionaire

Yesterday I carpooled with some friends to listen to a financial seminar.  I wanted to go with Evan, but he wasn’t able to go with me.  He volunteers in our church’s scouting program, and they had a big awards banquet at the same time.  Lucky for me, Evan took both boys, and they were fed dinner.  It was a nice night out, and I learned some great tips and strategies.

The lecture was free, since it was put on by one of the leaders in the business group that Evan and I are a part of.  The speaker that we heard is a multi-millionaire, so I’d say he was pretty qualified to give advice.  I think he was disappointed at reactions though.  He kept telling jokes, and didn’t get very many laughs.  I think everybody was there for some serious learning, so we didn’t come with the attitude of levity.  I was amused by the attempts though. 🙂

He gave many tips and statistics, and I didn’t write everything down, but there were several things that stood out to me that I did write down.  My favorite was the process to get out of debt.  He made a chart on the white board, and filled it with examples.  He said that it had worked with everyone he had helped, and it made a lot of sense to me.  I will post that chart in our Facebook group if you are interested.

I’m really excited to start the process of getting out of debt with Evan.  It can work whether you are buried in debt, or just have a small amount.  The goal is to be free from other people owning your life.  Collections calls are stressful, student loan mail isn’t exactly on the same caliber as a birthday card, and thinking about interest is just depressing.

He had some other things to say about interest and financing.  Financing in general is a bad thing.  There are exceptions though.  If you truly need it, or it will bring in money later, it may be worth it.  If your washer dies, and you need a way to wash your clothes, it may need to finance a washer.  If you see a boat you love, do not buy that boat unless you know you can afford it, and you will use it often.  If something you own has been unused for 18-24 months, sell it, and put it towards your debts.

He spent a good amount of time talking about small purchases as well.  He illustrated a story about a man, trying to straighten out his finances and get out of debt.  He was trying to help him, and asked him to write down everything he purchased in a small notebook.  What was found was that he bought a chocolate doughnut every morning.

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The chocolate was $0.10 more expensive than the glazed doughnut.  He told the man, “you will buy a glazed doughnut from now on.”  The man replied that he didn’t like glazed doughnuts, and this speaker insisted that from now on, he was a glazed doughnut man.

I thought it was interesting that he didn’t just say to stop buying doughnuts.  I thought about it, and realized that it is easier to make a small change, rather than stop a habit.  It was also interesting that 10 cents made a difference.  Small things add up I suppose.

One last thing that I’d like to bring up is that he stressed to put your business first.  Be a cheapskate with everything else, but when it comes to your business it is not necessary.  If you will see a return on that money, it makes sense to spend your money on it.  Spend money on things that will create an income!

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He went over so much last night, but this post is already getting a little long.  If you would like to hear more advice he gave, you can always email me at candidnetworkmarketing@gmail.com, or comment below.  I hope you’re having a great week!

What is in Your Heart?

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This is the piano I grew up with.  Before it was in my home growing up, it was in my grandparent’s home.  There is definitely some sentiment attached to it.  I grew up in a very musical home, and in a way, view it as a first language.  While it’s not a typical language, it is used to communicate.  As a musician, you will be asked to read and/or write music, just like any other language.  While it may not function as the best language to ask your sister to pass the ketchup at the dinner table(or maybe it does… haha), it surpasses other languages when it comes to communicating complicated emotions and ideas.

I learned how to read music at a young enough age, that I don’t remember learning.  I learned how to hear and form harmonies, just by listening to what my mom was doing with us.  I learned about what chords naturally go together when my Dad introduced the guitar to me at a young age.  But the most important thing I learned was how to feel and communicate through music (thanks Mom and Dad).

We need to be able to feel and communicate in all aspects of life.  Beethoven felt compelled to write music.  What he felt in his heart had to come out. He felt compelled to communicate it with others.  His vehicle of communicating the passions of his heart was music.  It doesn’t have to be music for everyone though.  When I am passionate about my business, I feel compelled to talk to people about it, and share what I am doing.  Simple things can be a vehicle to express how we feel.  I can show my love for my family by watching my four-year-old do a somersault for the 15th time.  I can cook a meal for my family.  I can cuddle with my two-year-old.  I can kiss my husband.  That is how I show what is in my heart.

Here is the point of all of this:

Whatever you spend your time doing with your life, your year, your day, or the next 20 minutes, do it for a good reason.  Do it because you are passionate about something, and you must communicate that passion in some way.  Impressing other people or looking important is not a good enough reason.  Do it because it is important to you.  When it comes to your life, your opinion is what matters the most.